Current Mood: Groggy
Music Playing: Death Cab For Cutie, Transatlanticism
I'm not ashamed to admit that every once in awhile, I enjoy watching a "good chick flick." Now there is a fine line between what is considered a good and bad chick flick, and so when I say "good" I really mean a good romantic comedy. The other day I was watching "The Wedding Date;" a decent romantic comedy, but it was on TV, and I had been sick all weekend, and I needed a break from the non-stop soccer marathon I had been taking part in. I remembered seeing it once before and thinking that it wasn't too bad of a movie; the plot is rather simple; girl hires male escort to make ex jealous, and ends up falling for him, and along the way they have a little squabble, but inevitably end up together in the end. There was one quote that seemed to encompass the theme of the movie, "Every woman has the exact love life she wants." And so I starting thinking...hummmmm... Perhaps this true... There are many different types of women in the world, and each one has a different "ideal" love life. Kurt Vonnegut once said, "We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be." You can't pretend to be someone you're not, because the truth will eventually show through. Some women may think they are one way, when in fact they are another; I know this to be true because I have seen it many times. The same can be said for relationships; some enjoy not settling down and living the single life, some play the waiting game, waiting for Mr. Right to come along, some seem as though they can't survive without a partner and so they hop from relationship to relationship never settling because they can't commit, and then there are the types that once they find true love they grab hold of it and get married. Guy's take note here, this is why women are so complicated, this is why you can't get certain girls to commit or jump into bed with you. I will speak on behalf of the male species in saying that we typically know what kind of love life we want too, but the difference is that we tend to make our intentions known. But it is, in fact our job as guys to find out what exactly it is that women want; this is crucial guys, we have the power to transform any girl into something different. Now I say this with benevolent intentions; we can reconstruct what she wants out of her love life by being an unequaled counterpart. It takes a work of consummate skill to do so; and often we are too fearful of the female species because they appear so elusive that we often don't ever reach that point of female enlightenment. But it's all about what the woman needs, and if she just needs a body to make her feel secure and comfortable, then thats all you will ever be, unless you show her otherwise. You show her what she's missing in her love life, and her love life changes... When a woman finds a guy who constantly reminds her of how beautiful she is, who will lie under the stars and listen to her heartbeat, or stay awake just to watch her sleep... who kisses her forehead, who thinks she's just as beautiful without makeup on, one who constantly reminds her of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have her, she has no choice but to change her love life, because once she has that, she won’t ever want to not have it. To the female cynics out there, you're love life is what you make it, and somewhere inside every woman is the desire to make one lucky man her last great romance."If you'd rather give up then try, then you will never find anything worth fighting for."(I think this was from a Scrubs episode) I thought I had found myself in one woman's last great romance, but as it turns out, she wanted to give up rather then try. But maybe she's got the love life she wants, maybe she's a relationship hopper, and when I thought I had completed my construction, she jumped ship. But thats the problem with relationship hoppers is that sometimes the best thing they've found is staring them right in the face yet they still let go, because thats all they've ever known. It took me awhile to realize that even though it was love, it may not have been everything I wanted..."Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers." (Mary Tyler Moore) I'm at the point where I'm wondering if that made any sense at all or whether it was one long stream of consciousness/diatribe. Who knows...
