Current mood: Fuzzy
Music playing: Jason Mraz We Sing, We Dance, We Steal Things
In the game of life, what kind of love pattern do we fall into? Sometimes it seems as though no matter what, we go through spells of similarities. I don't just mean in relationships with a significant other either, it could be a relationship with a friend or family member as well. But some how, we end up having relationships go the same way, for example; getting dumped the same way, or finding new relationships the same way. I was thinking about the patterns we fall into, what kind of love do we fall into more often then not?
There are those of us who have love lost too often to count, it seems as though we lose touch with friends too often, family members either pass away, move away or fall out of touch with you. This pattern seems to find its way into your love life as well. Each new relationship seems great and beautiful but is inevitably destined to fall victim to a series of shortcomings and eventually ends. Getting so wrapped up in the losses, it’s hard to see and comprehend when love is gained, even if it’s in the form of a new friend.
Then there are those who have love gained. Love seems to find them around every corner, which isn't necessarily a good thing. It is my contention that the love of too many people is bad for your ego. If you go around feeling too high, there will be inescapable moments that send you crashing back to earth. It has been said that you always learn a lesson from your last relationship and break up, but when there are too many to speak of, the lessons kind of blur all into one giant nothingness, because in reality you really haven't learned any lesson. Because, although the love has been gained, it somehow, unavoidably ends in the pattern of love lost.
Then there are those of us who have fantasized about love their whole life. One instance would be the unfortunate social pariah. Other then the love of their family, they have yet to feel the honest love of a friend or lover. Their heart aches and screams for affection, but their pleas are unfortunately, rarely answered. But you don't have to be a pariah to not experience love. There are plenty of us out in the world who would consider themselves, well, we'll use the politically correct term, "dating challenged." Somehow, despite the love of friends and family members, this group struggles to find their dates and their “other half”. Without any confidence, they find themselves in a slippery slope of a dry spell and dream of the day that they find Mr/Ms Right.
There are countless other patterns that one falls into, such as falling too quickly for someone and then having it end quickly, falling in love too quickly, and having the love not reciprocated, not experiencing a connection at all, simply playing the game of chase to satisfy sexual needs. The list goes on, unfortunately, we are a species of patterns and routines. We like things to feel the same and comfortable, so we go with what we know, rather then what is always best. We get in the routine of doing the same thing, each time, and can't break out of that pattern.
For the lucky, there is love realized; this in the penultimate achievement. It's the realization of a combination of the love yourself, a mutual love from friends and family, and the love from a significant other. This is not a pattern that one falls into, rather a series of going through the patterns previously mentioned, that eventually leads you to a conclusion. But the key love, is that of love realized for yourself. Before you can fully appreciate the love of others, you have to appreciate the love of yourself.
Unfortunately, some of us are never able to break out of these patterns. Some of us are destined to be in search of Mr/Ms Right, while continuing to date, Mr/Ms Wrong. Others will forever be searching through the looking glass to what seems like a world not of their own, wondering if they will ever be accepted into what seems like a foreign sorority.
